Lately I have been noticing that men are often called upon to do things that women aren't. Why is it that when someone is needed to speak, a man is asked? Why do men feel the need to always ask men for things? I am referring to the church setting mainly. I have grown up in the church, spoken many times, and led many groups or activities as a youth, yet as a young adult it's like I'm invisible. I love my church and leadership, but it seems as though women are not as "spiritual" as men according to what I see. Guys my age are being asked to speak in front of the church, speak at youth group, and lead prayer times at services. Why am I not asked when I have been there and gone through so much?
I often struggle within myself to figure out if I care about these things because I truly want to do them or if I am just jealous and want to be noticed. I have pondered that question many times to make sure I commit to things that I enjoy and feel led to do, not the other way around. In saying that, I really would love to be asked to speak in church or in front of the youth because I feel like I have a lot of insight and I've learned so much about God's love and forgiveness.
It's like everyone says how great my husband is and says how he's grown in God since he got saved this past year, and in turn asks him to speak or give a testimony...hello??? I'm right here. I guess I just feel invisible. I have a lot to offer and I feel like nobody sees anything in women. It is rare that a woman is asked to speak at church or lead anything.
I was offered a position at church to be in charge of the kitchen and such and I agreed to it. I did ask my husband if he'd like to help, being that he is a chef and knows the logistics of a kitchen, but now it's all about him and people go to him and show him things and ask him about the kitchen. Again, I am invisible.
I have always used my twin sister as a crutch because of my own insecurity and I realized that I did that with my husband again too. I feel so incompetant because nobody gives me a chance to be what I know I can be. I am more than a wife and mother, I am a vessel of God and want so badly to be heard and valued. I may not raise my hands in church or openly promote myself as much as others, but that doesn't make me any less spiritual or worthy. I try to be humble and available to serve as I was taught. I deserve to be more than a background person and such.
Again, I LOVE my church family and pastors, I just feel so unused. What is it about men that makes them seem so "special"? I respect men and love the guys in my life, as they are great friends and mentors to me and my husband, but their wives are rockstars too and again, I see them in the background most of the time. It may be by choice sometimes, but not all the time.
Food for thought...what is it about men that makes them stand out over women? In the corporate world? In church? Feedback is appreciated.
I often struggle within myself to figure out if I care about these things because I truly want to do them or if I am just jealous and want to be noticed. I have pondered that question many times to make sure I commit to things that I enjoy and feel led to do, not the other way around. In saying that, I really would love to be asked to speak in church or in front of the youth because I feel like I have a lot of insight and I've learned so much about God's love and forgiveness.
It's like everyone says how great my husband is and says how he's grown in God since he got saved this past year, and in turn asks him to speak or give a testimony...hello??? I'm right here. I guess I just feel invisible. I have a lot to offer and I feel like nobody sees anything in women. It is rare that a woman is asked to speak at church or lead anything.
I was offered a position at church to be in charge of the kitchen and such and I agreed to it. I did ask my husband if he'd like to help, being that he is a chef and knows the logistics of a kitchen, but now it's all about him and people go to him and show him things and ask him about the kitchen. Again, I am invisible.
I have always used my twin sister as a crutch because of my own insecurity and I realized that I did that with my husband again too. I feel so incompetant because nobody gives me a chance to be what I know I can be. I am more than a wife and mother, I am a vessel of God and want so badly to be heard and valued. I may not raise my hands in church or openly promote myself as much as others, but that doesn't make me any less spiritual or worthy. I try to be humble and available to serve as I was taught. I deserve to be more than a background person and such.
Again, I LOVE my church family and pastors, I just feel so unused. What is it about men that makes them seem so "special"? I respect men and love the guys in my life, as they are great friends and mentors to me and my husband, but their wives are rockstars too and again, I see them in the background most of the time. It may be by choice sometimes, but not all the time.
Food for thought...what is it about men that makes them stand out over women? In the corporate world? In church? Feedback is appreciated.
